Friday, June 3, 2011

How To Write A Love Letter


In the age of e-mails and text messaging, writing a good old fashioned letter, especially a handwritten one, is becoming increasingly rare. But it's a very personal way to express your sentiments to someone. Here are some ideas for how you can go about doing it!

Steps
Choose nice paper or stationary. While a simple piece of printer or notebook paper will do, selecting high-quality paper will add a nice touch and show how much care went into writing this letter. You can also take regular paper and make it look old or even make your own paper. It's best to write on a plain paper in white or light cream texture. Never use blue, green or red ink. Use either black or brown.

Try to stimulate a romantic mood for writing. Go to a private room, like a bathroom or bedroom, put on some romantic music and dim the lights.

Start off lighthearted and with a proper salutation. If you are writing from a long way away, tell them you miss being with them. If not, tell them about something in your day that reminded you of them like a pretty flower or a particular smell.
Think of a time when you felt particularly moved by seeing your loved one, no matter how small the event. Recall the emotional and physical feelings you experienced in that moment. Write a description of that moment including details about your feelings at the time.

Tell the person what you appreciate most about them. Is it their compassion? Thankfulness? Beauty? Sense of humor? Humility? Resourcefulness? But make sure you are not openly erotic.

Write about the future. Mention how much you look forward to seeing them again; and if you want, discuss some fantasies you have about your future life together.

Sign the letter.

Add a personal touch, like:

Put lipstick on and kiss the paper.
Spray the perfume or cologne you always wear on the paper.
Trace your hand on the back, with the idea being that the other person can hold their hand up to yours.
Put the letter in an envelope. If you want, you can make the envelope or even fold the note itself into an envelope. Alternatively, roll the letter up like a scroll and tie it closed with a piece of nice ribbon or string.

Tips
Take your time. If a letter is rushed, it shows. Pause to think before each sentence, and look up difficult words before you attempt to spell them to avoid ugly crossing outs.
For a fancy twist, write the letter in calligraphy. This not only lets you think more about what you say, it also looks far more impressive.
Love letters are great as a "refresher" in a relationship, possibly for a special anniversary or such.
Warnings
Remember that not everyone might think a love letter is as romantic as you do. If the person who receives the letter doesn't seem appreciative, try not to take it personally. It's a token of your love, and hopefully the true joy is in the writing and the giving, not in the response you get in return.

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